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ONE YEAR LATER - SO, WHAT'S MARRIED LIFE LIKE?

Irena Masters

Celebrating our first wedding anniversary, thanks to    Love Cloud Nine Picnics

Celebrating our first wedding anniversary, thanks to Love Cloud Nine Picnics

Nine years ago, I said yes to William, to be his girlfriend.
Two years ago, I said yes to William, to be his fiancé.
One year ago, I said I do to William, to be his lawfully wedded wife.
And yesterday, I said yes to William, that it was indeed the recycling bin that needed to be taken out this week. 

So, what’s married life like?

I get asked this question over and over again, and although I still don’t feel like I can answer it with much depth as it has only been one year, I think I now have a better understanding of the difference between dating and being married.

Our wedding day captured by the amazingly talented Tina & Doruk from   Lovelenscapes Photography

Our wedding day captured by the amazingly talented Tina & Doruk from Lovelenscapes Photography

In a way, our wedding day marked the conclusion of her and his life, and the beginning of our life. I write ‘life’ rather than ‘lives’ because I believe it’s no longer about being singular, but about coming together and building as one. When I walked down the aisle and said I do, I had a rough idea of what marriage entailed, but unfortunately not even google can give you all the answers. Marriage, like everything else in life, cannot be taught or understood. Everyone is different, and everyone has different dynamics in their relationship. What works for one couple may destroy another. It’s something that needs to be felt simultaneously by both people involved.

Luckily, Will and I have been together since high school (grade 9 for me and grade 11 for Will). We’ve basically lived at each others houses until my second year of University, then we moved and lived together for roughly a year and a half in Darwin prior to getting married and buying our first home. So I’d like to think that we knew each other pretty well before marriage, because of this it wasn’t a complete shock when I ‘accidentally’ only bought white décor for the entire house or if Will ‘accidentally’ didn’t put away his lunch containers. It’s essentially all we’ve ever known. Everything we do on a daily basis has been moulded from the beginning together. It’s funny, because we both did a personality test last night for the first time and both scored extremely high in the category of ‘perfectionists’. I have no idea where we may have picked up these traits but it makes a lot more sense as to why I’m such a freak when it comes to tidying our home and colour coordinating every room in the house and why Will’s side of the dresser is always picture perfect besides when I throw in a few of my items.

The way our house runs is smooth because we know our responsibilities and we know when and what we need to do in order to keep our routine consistent and efficient. We obviously have the occasional days where either Wills absolutely wrecked from work or I’ve been working from 5am – 9pm with a short 30min break and had no time to do the laundry, or cook dinner. Those are the days we rely on the other half to help out and balance the situation which normally happens almost instantly. It’s as if we both know as soon as we see each other whether one of us has had a normal day or a crazily, hectic, ‘get me junk food now’, busy sort of day. For me, marriage is all about team work and having each others back, especially during the stressful times… so whoever it is juggling their day like a maniac… you get them that ice cream… or if it’s both of you then hooray, let’s make it a party and go buy a packet of Maltesers, sour lollies, and a few desserts!

I hear two different spectrums on the topic of marriage, people often say ‘don’t do it, it’s a trap’ or ‘my gosh, it must be the most amazing thing ever’. In my opinion depending on the people and the situation, both are wrong. There are days when you can casually wake up, pop some acoustic on, prance around in your pyjamas, cook breakfast together and cuddle for hours, these days are called… Sundays and yes they are amazing! I think some people who are optimistic about marriage, picture that, as the everyday. Don’t get me wrong, those days definitely are a part of married life. Will and I put a huge emphasis on using our weekends/days off to really spend quality time together as our weekdays are always so full on and involve a lot more dedication, compromise, patience and love.

Living together, travelling together, exercising together, paying bills together, sharing chores together, working together, growing up together – these are the realties of marriage and they can bring out the best, and sometimes the worst in people… yes, unfortunately I do get super competitive when it comes to who can fold their clothes the fastest.

You may still be asking the good ol’ question,
so, come on now, whats married life like for you…?

First of all, before I get into my experience thus far, I don’t think anyone should ever compare their relationship with another. Everyone has different perfections and flaws that they love or hate. What I may find amazing, somebody else could think of as mediocre and vice versa. What works for myself and William may never work for yourself and your significant other. Our emotions may not be what you’re feeling but in no way does it mean your relationship or ours is any worse or better.

I can confidently say that so far I am so extremely grateful and happy with the life Will and I have created together. I honestly didn’t think it was possible but I am more in love with this amazing man today than I was one year ago when we said, “I do”.  I cannot believe that time has passed so quickly and yet I can think back and reminisce on how many little milestones we have both accomplished. I hear people say ‘marriage is hard’, I disagree, I think life is hard, all the pressures and rocks that get thrown at you are sometimes so difficult to manage and I think those who have found a partner or soulmate to help navigate through those storms are so extremely lucky. Our marriage quite often floats down a beautiful stream peacefully and lovingly, there are a few ducks that float along with us, supporting our adventures (family/friends), sometimes there’s a small exciting wave (new experiences/beginnings), sometimes a little rain (little disagreements, mainly on what we should eat for dessert, crème brulee always), and very rarely a thunderstorm hits (family, loss, work issues). During these gusty moments we continue to keep paddling, we keep afloat, we hold onto each other’s hand a little tighter, and we never let go until the storm dissipates. This is, what marriage looks like for us…

I would love to hear about your experiences or any questions you guys may have! PM me on Instagram or comment away below.

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VALENTINES DAY

Irena Masters


GIFT GUIDE FOR HIM

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner and every year I always get stuck when thinking of what sort of gift I can surprise Will with. Guys can be pretty damn tricky to shop for. So I thought I would do a little research and jot down a few options. So If you’re coming up short in the idea department, you’re in luck, cupid gave me a little help and I was able to select 7 V-Day gifts for your one and only, or your two, or three, whatever floats your boat. So scroll down and check out the love list, I have written links below for each little idea. 

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1. Willie May's Necktie, $77
Every man needs a tie in his life, this red, ivory purple and orange ikat tie is made of 100% Organic Cotton. Perfect gift for your man.

2. Byron Bay Gifts - The Relaxation Remedy, $99
All men need to feel pampered sometimes! I know for a fact Will would LOVE this. Such a cute gift hamper that includes a variety of different premium shaving products. All Valor products are made from natural ingredients, free from palm oil, synthetic fragrances, parabens, sulphates and preservatives, which is a big tick in my books. Also included in this bag of goodies is a few Sanctum products, moisturiser and face & body scrub. Out of everything though I think Will and the majority of men out there would probably appreciate the Byron Bay Cookies the most! 

3. MONTBLANC Meisterstück Cufflinks with Montblanc Emblem, $300
These cuff links are just so damn beautiful. They timeless and can be worn with absolutely any suit. Made out of stainless steel so you can be assured that they will be around for a long time. 

4. Calvin Klein Cotton Stretch Trunk Pack of 3, $99.95
You can't go wrong with some underwear! I swear Will goes through 10 pairs of underwear every month!  All girls love a bit of Calvin Klein on their man so this pack of three is the way to go - Finished with the brands iconic waistband in 3 different colours, Calvin Klein's cotton-blend trunks will instantly update your mans essentials.

5. Happy Socks - Key to My Heart, $16.95
The name says it all! These are just way too cute for Valentine's Day. Plus side too is they have unisex sizes, so I'm seriously considering getting myself a pair! Not sure how Will is going to feel about figuring out who's is who. We currently have one shirt that is the same and oh gosh it's rough sometimes - there was one time where we both turned and noticed we had worn the same shirt for the same event on accident. It was hard to convince him that I had chosen to wear it first! 

6. Ben Sherman - Booklet Trifold Leather Wallet, $89.95
I love this wallet so much not only does it have a coin pouch but it also features an i.d window sleeve. This wallet won't break the bank (another pun intended).

7. Otto Brisbane Six Course Seafood Degustation for Two, $195
You know what they say, the key to a mans heart is through the stomach. Feed him silly. Treat your taste buds as well as his to an unforgettable dining experience. This would of been a MUST HAVE for Valentines Day with Will, but because of his strict diet at the moment he won't be able to do this, I guess I will just have to take my mum!

What are you gifting the man in your life this Valentine’s Day?!

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NEW YEARS REFLECTION

Irena Masters

The New Year is a time where I normally like to internally reflect on the year that's just passed. It is more or less arbitrary when the end of the year starts or finishes but because this is the most common rhythm marked by the calendar, I always find it a good time to assess parts of my life. This year I thought I would do something different by typing my reflection down and sharing with you all instead. I like to think about all of the positive gains that I should appreciate and feel grateful for and about the missed opportunities or down times that occurred. Basically I like to recount the good and the bad of the past year. By reflecting on the past I feel like it helps me learn from my experiences and allows personal growth.

It's actually so hard to believe that twenty-seventeen is over. 2017 was an extremely eventful year for William and I. Not only did we purchase our first home together but we also got married! These two milestones brought us so much happiness! Although, if I'm honest it also created a lot of stress throughout the year. Not stress in our relationship but more so stress from the planning and organisation parts.

It has all been hectic to say the least! Everything from signing legal contracts, buying a house on the same street as our closest friends, moving out, moving in, purchasing furniture, building furniture, decorating, changing address, visiting my dad in New Zealand, multiple camping trips throughout the year (Mount Barney, Mount Tambourine, Big Riggen Park, Flanagan Reserve, Camp Somerset, Bluff Creek, and Noosa Everglades), going on our first cruise, attending our close friends wedding in New Castle, going to our first concert together, attending my mums annual Chamber of Commerce function in Melbourne & Sydney, having our Hens & Bucks Parties, having a bridal shower (no, that's not when everyone helps me shower), planning a wedding, learning to dance (for the wedding), getting married, planning a honeymoon, going on our honeymoon to the Maldives & Dubai, slowly changing everything I own with my new surname, going to Los Angeles and Vegas to work with my best friend (and managing to miss our returning flight), losing friendships, gaining friendships, after 5 or so years of visiting multiple doctors, specialists, naturopaths, and dietitians we finally got a diagnosis/results back for Wills stomach issue and can finally begin his treatment, multiple Byron Bay trips to spend time with family, and all the chaos in between, has been craaazy. 

I wonder if this year will be anywhere as insane. Either way I am up for the challenge and so excited, but before I start planning and scheduling this years events I wanted to come up with some goals for Twenty-Eighteen. 

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Continue library nights. William and I decided to start little library nights at home. Before we go to bed we turn off all electronics and read for 30-40mins then discuss what we just read/learnt. I'm really enjoying this not only because of the knowledge gained but also cause it allows me to switch off before bed. 


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Start this Blog and continue it. I love sharing experiences with others especially if it can provide little bits of knowledge to someone else. So many blogs have helped me with our adventures, situations, and projects so I thought it may come in handy to someone who also is doing or wanting to do similar things. I also love the idea of being able to re-read memories and moments.


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Be active at least 4 times a week. I started working out roughly 5 times a week a couple of months before our wedding, and not only did I see changes in my body, but I also felt like I had ten times the energy both mentally and physically. Good health is important and I want to move my body more and nourish it with fresh food but I also don't want to obsess over it and just want to have a good balance. 


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Be more patient and slow down. I'm so bad at this. I am literally on the go 5AM - 9:00PM and as soon as something at work or at home slows me down, I tend to get a little snappy. I hate sitting at home on the couch even if it's for 5mins. I am always wanting to do something. I need to stop and take a breath, sit and relax without thinking about what I should be doing, and allow things to happen more naturally.


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Don't worry and think positively. I’m a pretty positive person already and tend to always see the good in a bad situation, but when it comes to what people say or think about me, I sometimes let it worry me too much. I need to learn to accept their opinion but not let it change or get to me. 


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Stress less. This sort of links to number four. When I get busy with work or at home I need to take a step back and see the bigger picture.


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Work hard. I still want to continue to progress and do more projects and work with more clients but manage and balance it better.


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Travel and backpack around Europe. I absolutely LOVE travelling. I haven't been back to Europe since I was in primary school. So I am so excited to tick this off my list, William and I have already booked our flights we just need to go!


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Say "I love you" every single damn day. I already say this to William every day without fail, and I definitely won't be stopping anytime soon. A lot of the time it's easy to assume that your loved ones know that you love them, but I think it's important that they hear it. 

I’m sure I could think of loads more goals, but then I would not be following points number four or six! So I will leave it there. I love the new year it's the time to bring balance into our lives and look at all the positives that override the negatives. Happy New Year to you! Please let me know your goals in the comments or via Instagram msg @irenaclare I would love to know what everyones are.

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